Recently I crazed about a game: staring opposite walking people when on the road. It is quite interesting. I think it’s a great way to build self-confident, and it works.
I was inspired by a Japanese Samurai Technique called “Doujutsu” (瞳術). It’s a skill that generally speaking analysis your enemy’s status and predict his/her next action. When two Samurais in a confrontation, they don’t look their arms or their swords, but stare into their eyes.
I found some interesting result after a month’s staring:
- Most people don’t look back when you staring at them.
- Some of them would look back but no more than 1 second and they would make their sights somewhere else, even if they knew they were been staring at.
- Men hate to be stared by other men. But some of the girls would staring back and somehow try to send “messages” to you.
The reason I wrote this was that I had missed an opportunity to get to know a girl when I was in Four Season Hotel this afternoon. The girl was sitting in the sofa at the lobby, and I was walking towards elevator from entrance door. I stared at her and she looked back. And I slowed down my footstep and keep staring but she was still made her sight lock on me. I found it’s very interesting. But finally I didn’t nerve myself to say hello to her. It’s a late time for me, and I had got a company already.
If time went way back to the moment, I’d go up to her and make a conversation. Maybe begin with “How dare you staring me like that…”